Behaviors are strategies we use to draw attention to our needs.
At JAHM Chai Tots behavior is looked upon as learning opportunities. All behavior has a reason, even if sometimes the reason is not a good one. Behaviors are strategies we use to draw attention to our needs. Children act out if they feel their needs (e.g. for affection, comfort, or security) aren’t being met. They are not mature enough to tell us in words which need these are. The worst thing an adult can do is to ignore a child’s request for help (which is what the behavior is for) or to be afraid of an outburst. By dismissing the child, or giving into his demands without examining them, we are failing to acknowledge his feelings, and are not offering genuine support in helping him communicate his needs in a way that will get them met. Children look to adults for guidance in how to behave; we allow them to have their feelings in a safe environment and prevent them from hurting themselves or others.
Here are some great articles to refer to.
Six Ways We Teach Our Kids Not To Listen by Amanda Morgan
Prespective- A Powerful Tool for Challenging Behaviors by Amanda Morgan